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Those in power are too busy to notice the daily atrocities committed against women

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Rana Allam

Yesterday we published a feature on domestic violence that described women being beaten, raped, and severely abused by their husbands and/or fathers. The statistics show a staggering 28 per cent of women are victims of domestic violence, within the context of marriage alone. A third of women in Egypt. Naturally this number must be even higher in reality because most women do not report or would not speak of such crimes against them, given the nature of these assaults.

The article included true stories told by a group of women who live in the same poor neighbourhood. In great detail the ladies poured out their hearts thinking we could help, thinking that the powers-that-be will listen and find a solution, and thinking that “society” will have mercy and, at least, sympathise. But no, what I received was criticisms on the use of details and “bad words” in the description of how one sadistic husband rapes his wife. I was told that mentioning such stuff and saying those words is haram (forbidden by Islam).

So basically we are being immodest, and possibly sinful, for detailing a crime during the age when a former Islamist parliamentarian proposed a law to the Islamist dominated parliament to legitimatise sleeping with the dead, to allow necrophilia in our “modest” country. Thankfully, parliament did not take his proposal seriously and it was not discussed, but the MP in question was not labelled “sinful”.

Talk of sexual sadism is forbidden, but having articles in the constitution allowing paedophilia is not. It is acceptable that the Islamist dominated constituent assembly discusses legalising marrying little girls, as young as nine years old, but it is not acceptable to talk about vile behaviours that already take place in our society.

Those critics allowed themselves to only see sexual details and none of them seem to have noticed the atrocities committed, but then again, there is nothing new there. The obsession of our new rulers and their committees and assemblies with women and sex is astounding. Beginning with the former parliament, passing by the Constituent Assembly and down to the most insignificant sheikh in their mosques, the most dominant discussions are related to the female body. Even their solution to the problem of sexual harassment lies in covering up the woman, regardless of the fact that monaqabat get sexually assaulted as well as non-veiled women. The issue is always about the woman and her parts.

They want us to forget about the issues of Egypt’s deteriorating healthcare with its substandard hospitals and doctors and nurses and equipment, and focus on cutting off female genitals. Let us spend days and nights figuring out whether Islam forced it, or recommended it, or accepted it because it was a long living tradition. Let us debate whether it should remain banned or whether it should be left to the parents’ whims when the girl reaches eighteen years of age. Let us focus on the female anatomy and forget about the population’s bodies altogether. And while we are at it, let us debate the large spectrum of interpretation of Shari’a laws when it comes to gender equality. It is time to find out whether our different anatomies impose different rules.

Debates are very hot on the age of marrying off a fourth grade girl, on whether she should be covered from head to toe or allow her show her face, while half the population is barefoot. On whether it is mandatory to cover the hair, and should we enforce this by law or not, while we live on a garbage dump.

Right now, the honourable Constituent Assembly is having heated discussions on whether to include Islamic Shari’a “law” or Islamic Shari’a “principles”. Every article in the constitution related to women and their rights, has some debatable phrase like “not contrary to”, or “but must take into consideration blah blah blah,” with no explanation on how that would be helpful to women who are victims of daily abuse, but with great emphasis on limiting what little freedom she has.

Ignoring that the current situation of women in Egypt is already difficult, they are being sexually assaulted in broad daylight on the streets, and  beaten up and raped in their own homes, and no one seems to care to put in some clause protecting them from violence.  Instead, they have in fact removed a clause on human trafficking because it would criminalise marrying girls under 18. Those in power are too busy to notice the daily atrocities committed against women, they need to talk about female dress codes because that is the main problem Egyptian women are facing right now!

I certainly hope the soon to-be-elected parliament would think outside of the female anatomy and concentrate more on society’s anatomy. I certainly hope not to have to hear of proposed laws to allow sex with the dead, or with kids for that matter!

About the author

Rana Allam

Rana Allam

Rana is the Daily News Egypt managing editor. You can follow her @Run_Rana

  • Hussein Gohar

    Rana Allam looks at a topical subject from all angels and wittingly writes about it in the most eloquent way. Brilliant writing.

  • Sam

    I can’t believe how selfish the world is we all are aware to some extent of the atrocities committed in this backwards land from which I was sadly born unto. Women tortured and raped to convert them to Islam. We are fortunate that we have social media which helps raise awareness. But to who!!! to the rapists and perverts in power themselves. Ones who condone murder and sexual immorality and areSoooo backwards that the are living in the dark ages

  • Nermeen Negm

    Honestly… You had me up until you mentioned necrophilia. Seriously… there was no such incident in the Egyptian parliament. Check your facts.
    We don’t need any more bad publicity enough as it is… and when respectful reports like you are trying to cover such an important story, it would be good for you (and pretty much everyone else) to be credible.

    • Hussein Gohar

      I think you should ask any of the MPs of the dissolved parliament regarding this particular incident. The credible ones will confirm that the issue was raised, to save face it never got pushed to the legislative committee

  • Badr

    Hello,
    Generally speaking I love the article especially that it tackles a topic most people choose to ignore. However the necrofelia law was nothing but a hoax, the powers that be wanted to discredit the parliament and so they ordered thier propaganda machine to push that piece of fictional news. Knowing that nobody does any facts checking in Egypt, and they were right.

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  • Rana Allam

    Thank you for your comments. For the necrophilia part, my sources in the former parliament confirmed it, but it was set aside and completely removed from the books. This request was based on a Moroccan sheikh’s fatwa, but thankfully parliament did not take it seriously and said it was a rumour.

  • Sam

    Maybe its not that Those in power are too busy to notice the daily atrocities committed against women. Maybe they just don’t give a shit. They don’t respect or admire women. Why protect them and treat them well?

  • Gailani

    Rana, you’ve tackled a very important issue but instead of discussing it and its causes in details you used some rumors created by the anti-Islam media to attack the Muslim Brotherhood “our new rulers” as you put it!
    Essam Sultan denied the whole issue about necrophilia on his facebook page accusing the media to create it out of nowhere.
    But, I agree with you that we have a problem with Muslims nowadays. Most Muslims misunderstand Islam either intentionally to serve their own sick deeds or unintentionally by being ignorant.

    • [email protected]

      i don’t think essam sultan is the best source to verify that news…

  • sam

    you know it happens even in the west, even in america I was watching a documentary about the native americans that live on the reservations. The poverty is so extreme there and the documentary was showing the native women being raped. Most of the time there is not punishment for these women’s attackers. The american government even fails to press charges on these women’s behalf. The other horrible thing is that if these women do go forward to press charges they are terrorized by the family members in order to drop the charges. I was disgusted, when I saw this this truly reminded me of what goes on in the middle east also. But many countries suffer this indignity whether in the west or not. The native women were put at fault for the rapes that happen to them, I have seen that as well in the middle east not just in Egypt but where Sharia law does reside in those particular countries. In Afghanistan as well this happened all too frequently. The question is where is the fine line of women being able to take back their power in a land ruled by men? It’s hard for women to have a voice where men think we are inferior to them but they do realize that with out us the human race would not continue with out us, we are so important and should be voiced and heard. Women are valuable!

  • http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_total_number_of_religion_in_the_world#ixzz2859BlsN4 emirjame

    Anyone who uses their brain properly can see that ‘the god concept’ is not compatible with logic:
    If there are 730 (or something) religions and belief systems (and a lot older ones that have extinguished) either only one of them is right or all of them are false. Suppose one of them is right – then what are the 729 other ones made of??
    Now – compare all of them & then show which is the one that is completely different and stands out. If it doesn’t exist – you have your answer. Religion is a very interesting social invention, but there is no ‘god’.

    So how is it that women should allow men to control them on the basis of this concept?? If something doesn’t feel good – it’s not good.

  • emirjame

    If there are 730 (or something) religions and belief systems (and a lot older ones that have extinguished) either only one of them is right or all of them are false. Suppose one of them is right – then what are the 730 other ones made of??

    Now – compare all of them & then show which is the one that is completely different and stands out. If it doesn’t exist – you have your answer. Religion is a very interesting social invention, but there is no ‘god’. The way certain people deal with the factual body is similarly deluded.

    So – I hope the modern women of Egypt will not allow anybody forbidding them to do anything on the basis of this concept.

  • [email protected]

    You guys have been very harsh on them. They said that one can have sex with a dead woman up to six hours after her death, but no more than that. See how progressive they are?

    Of course i am being super sarcastic. This kind of events make me very sad. We also have the “sheikh” who wants to legalize marriage to 9 years old girls. The question here is why those “islamists” are so obsessed with sex? Why are they mentally disturbed (because even thinking of being attracted to a 9 years girl has no other explanation than total sickness and it is something that one could to jail for in any developed country).

    Instead on humiliating the Egyptian woman and humiliating the entire nation in fron of the world, why don’t they focus on the more pressing issues and challenges facing Egypt.

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